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nd300

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A question for all bowlers............Part I
« on: February 28, 2010, 08:48:25 AM »
A friend of mine----not me----has been through hell this past fall. He's told me about it. Many many things went wrong for him this fall. While normally a very good man,husband,and father to his child,his reaction to all of the stress wasn't a good one.Among the stressors was a car accident,attempted suicide of one of his parents,personal checking account hacked into,and others.
 Knowing your friends,if one of them went through an extremely personal stress period.Would you forgive them a mistake???
 He did something that would offend and probably make most bowlers mad.
 After reading some of the responses,I'll post what he did......
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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #1 on: February 28, 2010, 05:12:52 PM »
Storm--good point. What I should have asked was:
 If a very good friend did something totally out of character,would you forgive him that,knowing it was stressed based and not any where near his normal behaviorsomething he'd never do otherwise???
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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #2 on: February 28, 2010, 05:13:51 PM »
What Stormbowler said.  Can't give an answer till I know what he did.
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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #3 on: February 28, 2010, 05:16:37 PM »
Depending on what he did, I would likely forgive him if he's a good friend. But might suggest he take some time away from the team.
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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #4 on: February 28, 2010, 05:25:36 PM »
Everyone makes mistakes in life....whether or not we forgive them is not what's important....it is whether they learn from their mistakes...it's called experience.
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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #5 on: February 28, 2010, 05:27:17 PM »
Forgiving is much easier than forgetting...
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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #6 on: February 28, 2010, 05:32:22 PM »
If he missed a final frame 5-pin to lose a game for your team, you should recommend he be burned at the stake. If it was something less than that, you should probably forgive him.
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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #7 on: February 28, 2010, 05:38:51 PM »
Knowing my friend went through all of the things you mentioned I surely would feel sorry for him and try to comfort him as much as I could. If he did something in this time of stress to offend me personally I would have to measure the offense to determine if I would let it pass. It maybe come to where I would forgive him but not have him as a friend any more. However something that only hurt my ego would be forgiven with an ernest apology.

In my opinion!
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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #8 on: February 28, 2010, 05:48:07 PM »
Then again, if he missed a key 5-pin ...
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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #9 on: March 01, 2010, 01:07:22 AM »
Well, i cant say i would forgive him considering i dont know what was done.  There are things in life that are unforgivable, no matter who the person is that did it.

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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #10 on: March 01, 2010, 02:12:17 AM »
I have no idea where this is going...
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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #11 on: March 01, 2010, 02:35:01 AM »

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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #12 on: March 01, 2010, 05:08:46 AM »
a true friend would forgive,

friendships ( acquaintances) are a dime a dozen, but true friendship lasts.

Like others have posted, without knowing all the details I can't give you an honest opinion

but, whatever it was if he is a true friend it shouldn't be hard to forgive
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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #13 on: March 01, 2010, 06:10:51 AM »
Pity and empathy.  Why would you willingly add to his list of problems?

Now, if this is bowling related, I would guess that he is the league secretary and has taken league funds for himself or he's taken something from someone else at league.  Almost anything else and he would be forgiven under the principle that it's just a game.  

Doesn't show up and leaves you without a legal lineup?  Be a fscking human.  

Doesn't pay and goes into arrears, again making you forfeit games?  I would gladly pay any of my teammate's lineage in a tight situation.

Bowls badly because he's distracted?  Be a fscking human.

Mouths off to the wrong person or lets his temper get a little out of hand, again, have some sympathy.

If he's your friend, you help him out.  If that means a little inconvenience, a little forgiveness, a little understanding, do it.

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Re: A question for all bowlers............Part I
« Reply #14 on: March 01, 2010, 08:00:06 AM »
Given the stress that you have mentioned it is reasonable to expect that it would have an effect on an individual.  That being said everyone handles stress differently.  If they are a true close friend then I would try and cut them a little slack and if truly sorry I would more than likely forgive.  Hard to say when you aren't the one in the position.

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