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Luke Rosdahl

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Correct way to respond to negativity?
« on: October 08, 2017, 01:31:48 PM »
Recently had someone leave a fairly ignorant comment on my Match Up Pearl review video.  He obviously didn't pay that close of attention to what I said, and went on a mini little rant about it.  I listened though, went back and watched the videos and one thing he did say was true, the reaction I showed didn't entirely "match up" to my commentary, or in other words, it looked a lot better than I made it sound.  I didn't like it, but an objective review can't be based on my personal opinions, I've gotta judge just on ball reaction, and despite my personal feelings, it still got a favorable rating. 

I HATE ignorance.  I can't stand our current political climate where if a million people like something, but one person doesn't or is "offended," then boy we've gotta change absolutely everything and bend over backwards to accommodate ignorance and stupidity.  On one hand, I'd love to get on there and pick his comments apart, because while he did have a point to one of them, he didn't pay attention to the rest of what I said, between the two videos I addressed a few things and thought I was very clear about them.  I don't want to seem like I'm getting defensive though, and I don't want to remove his comment, but I don't want other people seeing some ignorant cherry picked obtuse angle comment from someone who obviously just wanted to complai and then run with it.  I don't want to allow that kind of thing, so I'm definitely not going to get on there and apologize, but taking a firm stance would make me seem like a defensive doucher.  Ignorance and stupidity is becoming more and more prevalent because all you have to do is find a soapbox to hop on and whine from, and man the whole world starts changing for no reason. 

Obviously this really pisses me off, not because he had something negative to say, but because he didn't pay attention and was flat out wrong.  I know when you do something like youtube, you're putting stuff out there for everyone to see and can't control who watches your stuff or what they think about it, but I'm not going to bow down to ignorance, that just screws all my good viewers over and ruins the experience for them if all the sudden I change what I'm doing because I caved to a couple of morons. 
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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #1 on: October 08, 2017, 01:42:03 PM »
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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #2 on: October 08, 2017, 01:57:45 PM »
Just be yourself Luke.  The VAST majority appreciate your efforts, reviews and most importantly...YOU.

You’re a good guy.  So, IMHO, accept that negativity will exist regardless and it’s smooth sailing from there.

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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #3 on: October 08, 2017, 02:35:45 PM »
 If they add something constructive, whether negative or not, it is part of the discussion, and should be addressed accordingly.

 If it just destructive jargon, you may dismiss it as mere rantings, and feel no obligation whatsoever.

 And yes, you may only respond to the comments that are pertinent, and leave the rest of it to die. If someone is being obtusely stupid, they are only “pot stirring” anyway.
Learn to laugh, and love, and smile, cause we’re only here for a little while.

leftybowler70

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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #4 on: October 08, 2017, 04:22:22 PM »
As they say 'ignorance is bliss'  one bean doesn't affect the whole burrito.

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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #5 on: October 08, 2017, 05:44:02 PM »
When you put as much work as you do into things it's natural to want everyone to accept and agree with your points.  In today's environment that will simply not happen.  The internet has brought people from all over the world and all walks of life together.  We are (on this forum) a small sample of a world wide bowling community. 

We all come from a wide variety of life experiences that form our ideas and opinions, which is what we draw upon as we post here.  It doesn't mean we are right or wrong, just drawing upon different experiences.

A great song from Dave Mason from my era says;
"There ain't no good guys, there ain't no bad guys, there's only you and me and we just disagree."

If someone attacks you personally then say thank you and move on.  If they bring up good points for discussion then say thank you.  Don't get drug into a fight with someone who may have their own agenda.
« Last Edit: October 08, 2017, 07:44:27 PM by notclay »

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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #6 on: October 08, 2017, 06:43:00 PM »
I agree pretty much with notclay.

For the most part I wouldn't respond, simply state your case and not call out anyone.

Someone who is entrenched in their position doesn't hear arguments. That includes people on both sides of the discussion.

leftybowler70

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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #7 on: October 08, 2017, 08:59:15 PM »
Well stated Notclay.

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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #8 on: October 08, 2017, 10:22:22 PM »
Try posting something for sale….. And wait for the stupid questions or comments

Example

New in box 15lb Brand X, Most amazing ball pearl. $112.00 shipped. No trades


Question 1, what pound is the ball?
Question 2, is this ball new or used?
Question 3, how much is shipping?
Question 4, Would you trade for a 16lb 4.5 drill Brand Y ball?
Question 5, is this the hybrid?


People by in large are stupid. They do not read and comprehend. They only slightly do better with listening to or watching a video and comprehending.  As we see on here regularly people will argue with people who know far more because of something they read or heard from someone else years ago….. Which they probably didn't understand to begin with because as previously stated people do not comprehend or pay attention to anything.

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Luke Rosdahl

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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #9 on: October 09, 2017, 06:40:53 AM »
Thanks all.  I had to catch myself, I'm the one that's been saying a lot recently to ignore ignorance and stupidity, shouldn't give any attention to it, ignore it and move on because it's not worth the time.  He left another comment that was worse than the first, so I just deleted them and blocked him.  Ain't nobody got time fa dat!

Oh yeah ignite . . I have people ask questions all the time about stuff that I explicitly pointed out in the video and talked about.  "How does this compare to this other ball?"  You mean the one I actually compared it to and talked about in the video?  That one? 
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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #10 on: October 09, 2017, 10:21:23 AM »
Dilly Dilly Luke!!! There is a bitter beer face in every crowd. It makes me want to drop some Easy Slide on their approach. Inadvertently of course. lol

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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #11 on: October 09, 2017, 10:36:45 AM »
Always be nonreactive. One important thing to remember is that people project what is inside of them. You can react to other people's stupidity and drama (which essentially validates it) or you can be like a "container" where you stay within your own reality and just laugh it off. When someone attacks you, it is really about them; not you. You are not going to please everybody so just keep doing your thing, Luke. I really enjoy your honest commentary.

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Re: Correct way to respond to negativity?
« Reply #12 on: October 09, 2017, 11:32:19 AM »
Yes ^^^