I agree with some others. Join a Scratch League and move on.
If I bowl with buddies for some fun, we do a handicap league, but if we want to know how we stack up against others, we bowl scratch leagues.
Personally I NEVER give pins if I bowl for cash, beer, games, what have you. Just as I NEVER give strokes to anyone on the golf course if we are playing for anything.
If you want to take something from me, you need to beat me straight up no matter what game we are playing.
--------------------
Up the boards baby!