There has to be two sides. When I take my kids bowling is different than when I am bowling for money. I still enjoy bowling for what it is, and that's a sport I can share with my other family members (wife, toddlers, teenagers) until I can't walk anymore. Now, there's a different side to it, and that's the bowling for money side, which is a different mindset. I would love to bowl a mixed league with my wife to just be able to kick it and enjoy a couple of drinks. I also know I would need to keep my competitive side going as well. So you have to be able to do both.