Hello I'm a new menber. I consider myself a a very competitive bowler. I bowl in a women's scratch league. I've been bowling for 10 years but out of the 10 years I've bowled in this league for 3 years. I've built myself to be a very versatile bowler in which I can play anypart of the lane, change speeds, hand positions, etc. When I bowl and the lights come on I put on my game face and it's all business. But off the lanes I'm like the girl next door and would talk to anybody and like to joke and kid around. My teamates understand me well as well as a few other lady bowlers. My boyfriend comes with me to watch me and give me support. I'm the only lady bowler that has her man with her. I bowl with such intensity that it scares other bowlers in which some perceive that I'm aiming my intensity at them in which that's not the case. Recently, everytime that my boyfriend and I have a conversation in means of how I'm adjusting to the lanes or complain how filty the lanes are that someone happens to eavesdrop on our conversation and some how I end up being gossiped about as the bad guy. Whoever this person that is nosy justs wants to make trouble for me and wants to stir things up. When I talk to my boyfried we don't even talk about sex or even talk dirty we keep that in the bedroom nor do we make out in front of people. I noramlly give him a peck on the lips and give him a hug. That's it. I believe that the jealousy is two fold. One being that I'm a very versatile bowler and bring in 6 bowling balls because the condition vary everyweek. More like Forrest gump Lane condtion, because you never know what you're going to get week in and week out. And the other part of the jealousy is that my boyfriend and I have such a great relationship and really love each other and we're very happy with each other. How do I really deal with this bunch of whinny women without it upsetting me? I know that their intention is to get into my head and make it so unenjoyable for me to where I get to the point that I would quit the league. How do I deal with this in a classy manner? Any help and suggestions would be very helpful. My main goal as a bowler is to become a professional bowler. I have a great physical game. And my mental game is off and on and I know that I can't let this be. What's the best revenge without seeming spiteful? Please help.
