Author Topic: I know you guys hate this question, but... (Read 783 times)

Left-Factor · « **on:** January 26, 2005, 07:39:18 AM »

I think the wife needs a new ball.

I know, I know... For the millionth time... Sorry.

So, I'm really looking to improve her carry. She's an athletic five foot nothing. Currently throwing a V2 and a Scout Reactive; both #12. She's had problems with carpal tunnel in the past, but wears a Robby's. 3 step approach - won't even discuss additional step(s). Rev challenged (tops the ball). She's getting better at coming around the ball to spin for extra length, but can't really stay under the ball. Won't "practice", just open play for score. But, in spite of all of that, she's relatively competitive. Carrying about a 150 average. She just started working out serious and is getting stronger. I'm thinking that if she can handle #13, it would increase her carry significantly.

She's pretty straight down 3rd arrow, sometimes down 2nd, and leaves a LOT of 5 pins. I understand that with the stronger coverstocks these days that many companies are making balls with "real" cores at lower weights. Do you think we can find a decent forgiving control ball in #13 or maybe even #12? I think she getting the strength to handle #13, but would probably control a #12 better.

I'm open any and all suggestions. Thanks for your help.

janderson · « **Reply #1 on:** January 26, 2005, 03:42:18 PM »

With what you've described of her game, I'm afraid new equipment isn't going to help her much. The money would be better spent getting her a few lessons with a knowledgable coach that could help you sway her to changing her game.
--------------------
Kill the back row (or maybe this should read "make your spares, dummy")

mumzie · « **Reply #2 on:** January 26, 2005, 04:42:13 PM »

I would also say lessons would be a good thing.
Also, if the topping the ball is consistent, maybe a new thumb pitch would get her out of the ball better, improving overall roll. Once she starts to see some improvements with minor equipment changes, she might be more agreeable to major equipment changes.
--------------------
-- Whether you believe you can, or you believe you can't - you are right.

Juggernaut · « **Reply #3 on:** January 26, 2005, 05:41:40 PM »

Why do you think she needs a new ball? Did she ask for one? Is she dis-satisfied with her scores?

Best advice I can give you is, unless SHE is the one asking for a newer ball, or unless SHE is the one who has the incentive to work on her game, no ball on earth is going to make any difference.

Really, I am not trying to be preachy, but I've been through this all before myself. I was very enthused about getting my wife new equipment and helping her work on her game. When I got her a great new ball and had it drilled, she didn't like it, wouldn't use it, and got so tired of me trying to "help" her that she finally quit bowling, telling me that it just wasn't fun because I was always telling her what to do.

I hope this isn't the case with you, but you better make sure SHE is the one wanting to try a new ball cause if not, you are just pi**ing into the wind.
--------------------
Brunswick will soon own the world.
You must face it.
There is no escape.

charlest · « **Reply #4 on:** January 26, 2005, 07:14:46 PM »

quote:
mumzie said:

I would also say lessons would be a good thing..

If your wife is HONESTLY interested in doing better at bowling, then she must change most of the factors you mentioned and you know what they are. So, then I'd agree 110% with Mumize. Coaching is a must. GOOD coaching, that is.

Otherwise, she doesn't need anything and she should continue doing whatever it is she thinks she's doing (but it sure ain't bowling!).

Left-Factor · « **Reply #5 on:** January 27, 2005, 12:23:12 PM »

Thank you everyone for your suggestions. You have managed to do something that I have been trying to do for years - Convince my wife that she needs lessons.

She'll take the advise of total strangers, but not her own husband. We haven't been married very long. Is this one of the "marriage things" I've heard about that I'll just have to get used to

Anyway, thanks to you guys helping me prove my point, we will take the money we were going to spend on a new ball and put it towards lessons. I really appreciate all of your posts, as does my wife. Thanks again.

Now, if you could just help me get it through her head that open bowling for score once a month doesn't exactly constitute "Practice".

janderson · « **Reply #6 on:** January 27, 2005, 02:20:28 PM »

Glad everything worked out! Here's a quote that I try to live by that fits the situation:

"If you're not willing to change, you're not willing to improve."
--Robert Smith, PBA

--------------------
Kill the back row (or maybe this should read "make your spares, dummy")

Left-Factor · « **Reply #7 on:** January 27, 2005, 03:12:41 PM »

Good one. I like that. I know where I can use it too. Thanks.

Juggernaut · « **Reply #8 on:** January 27, 2005, 03:28:19 PM »

Left-Factor,

Yep, that's one of those marriage things alright! That is why I told you to make sure it was HER idea. Unless SHE wants to do it, it will be an exercise in futility.

And yes, my wife would never listen to me but would take advice from house bowlers with averages 30 pins below mine. She said listening to me made her feel like she had to do it and had no choice, but with others she could choose whether to listen or not. Crazy. But true!

P.S. You will find lots of things like this now. Don't know why it happens, but after 25 years I can vouch for the fact that it does!
--------------------
Brunswick will soon own the world.
You must face it.
There is no escape.

Author Topic: I know you guys hate this question, but... (Read 783 times)

Left-Factor

I know you guys hate this question, but...

janderson

Re: I know you guys hate this question, but...

mumzie

Re: I know you guys hate this question, but...

Juggernaut

Re: I know you guys hate this question, but...

charlest

Re: I know you guys hate this question, but...

Left-Factor

Re: I know you guys hate this question, but...

janderson

Re: I know you guys hate this question, but...

Left-Factor

Re: I know you guys hate this question, but...

Juggernaut

Re: I know you guys hate this question, but...