Jeff, couldn't they set up this meeting and you attend via speakerphone or something? I'm not sure if they'd accept your presence that way or not but it might be worth checking out.
As to low-life teammates, how bout this: I was bowling on a team with a bunch of guys I liked, and we were doing very well. So well, in fact we wound up league champs. So, summer comes and goes and it's time to start up league again, and I report there on opening night, and then the team captain informs me that I'm not on the team anymore. No explanation, except that he said the team took a vote and decided they didn't want me anymore. Now, I was a little bit upset(and a lot hurt) by this. I mean, you don't want me? Fine. I can live with that. But not to tell me until the first night of the following season? That's low, and very nasty(IMO). He's still on my short list of people I don't like(or trust), and this was either 1988 or 1989 when this happened.
drillbit