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Sir Bowl-A-Lot

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How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« on: April 19, 2005, 05:13:31 AM »
What is a nice way of telling a teammate that you do not want them back for next fall's league?
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Sir Bowl-A-Lot

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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #16 on: April 19, 2005, 01:54:22 PM »
The worst part about it is that she knows it bothers us (we sound like a broken record telling her it's her turn to bowl) and it isn't fair to us or the opposing team but she still continues to be aloof.
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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #17 on: April 19, 2005, 01:54:52 PM »
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Already have tried that.  She won't change.


Well there you go.  You've asked her to change and she will not.  Simply inform her that, because she has refused to work with the rest of the team, she will not be a part of the team next season.  She has made a choice, you are simply abiding by her choice.  It's cliche, but there is no "I" in team.

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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #18 on: April 19, 2005, 02:13:43 PM »
I like my version better!

Never bowled with a wife on a team.  I confine my activities to non bowling.

REgards,

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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #19 on: April 19, 2005, 02:30:01 PM »
Thank you for your replies.
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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #20 on: April 19, 2005, 09:17:56 PM »
My team had a member who was constantly late . . . We just ribbed and ribbed about it, and one day they stopped showing up.
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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #21 on: April 19, 2005, 09:18:52 PM »
I have been through this before as well.  I usually say that we are not committing to anything next year as we are not sure we are going back to that league but if you do, you will let them know.  Then, just don't say anything about it.  If they approach you again later in the summer, say you have already committed to another league and it was someone elses idea for the team, not yours.
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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #22 on: April 19, 2005, 09:28:49 PM »
It won't be easy. If it were me, I'd tell her at next league night. Up front, face to face. Straight out ( but warn your girlfriend just before you go) no beating around the bush (sorry..no pun intended) just cut and dried.
"If you can't be here on time, and it looks like you can not by the past XXX weeks performance, we would rather you find another team for next season. It's been....different bowling with you."

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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #23 on: April 19, 2005, 09:41:02 PM »
Print this out and show it to her. That'll do it.
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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #24 on: April 19, 2005, 10:35:28 PM »
If you've told her its been an issue and she's told you she won't change, plus you've been dealing with it for more than one season, just be straight forward with her and tell her that you prefer a teammate who comes to bowling on time and wants to focus on bowling. I had a teammate a couple of years ago who would be late to bowling 1/2 the time and it really slows the flow of the game down for all of your teammates.

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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #25 on: April 20, 2005, 11:37:35 AM »
Tell her that all the majority of the members have voted to no have be a member of your team next year.  I'm assuming that you are the team captain.  As the team captain, you can make decisions that will make your team win and enjoyable.  Start recruiting for the type of player that you want and try to get him/her to commit to your team next year.
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Sir Bowl-A-Lot

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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #26 on: April 20, 2005, 12:15:23 PM »
We will confront her.  Thanks.
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Edited on 4/20/2005 12:09 PM
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dpunky

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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #27 on: April 20, 2005, 12:17:22 PM »
Exactly!!!!

If the move meant going from the middle of the pack to first place, I would not hesitate to make the move.  If the only weakness on your team is that one player that is not on the same page then the only option is to get a new teammate.  Reliability is key to keeping a team working well together. Teamwork can be the difference between winning and losing.
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Re: How to tell a teammate you don't want them back next fall?
« Reply #28 on: April 20, 2005, 02:41:11 PM »
I've been THAT guy before and I appreciated the fact that the capt. of the team, who was also the owner of the proshop, told me personally.  He also set me up with another good team for the next season.
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