I have literally felt your pain, in the past. I once stuck my thumb into the spinning fan of my car, trying to retrieve a wrench I had dropped. I cut the tip of my thumb off.....but it was a clean cut. Raced to the hospital and they were able to reconnect it, fortunately. That bowling season I bowled "no-thumber"!! Only averaged a 165, though, so your 190 is pretty admirable.
Doug Sterner's suggestions are pretty right on, however even a drilled ball with a high pin will flip on you at the end of the pattern. What I did was take an old reactive ball, a purple Ninja(AMF) and put an extremely even drill on it,.... a barbell drill which allowed me to really rev it up, without seeing the extreme revs downlane.
A barbell drill is when the pin and cg are directly across from one another, below the finger holes. I believe I had the pin in the middle of my palm at the time, and I also scuffed the surface of that ball to about 600 grit. It made for a nice, big even flare, without the extreme flip.
Experimentation is key here. I have a few other techniques that work, but they require good timing, and a disciplined release. Good luck!