honestly the way i tell everyone ...
80-90% of the bowlers would not notice if the lanes are Tougher...
the 10-20% that do... you have half that will complain about it and half that will love it..
Most lower average bowl depend to some degree on the dry wall built outside the 10 board. Take that away, or diminish it, and dumped balls don't funneled toward the center. Many of the bowlers who understand and do complain might take their business elsewhere.
We can debate about this until the cows come home, but it doesn't matter. What's important is that house owners make the decisions, and they almost universally believe that bowlers generally want higher scores, and that higher scores translate to more business and more dollars. Revenue rules decisions. You can't fight City Hall on this one.
As much as I personally want tougher league conditions, I understand the proprietor's point of view, and it's not going to happen. Mixed league bowlers, in general, just want to have fun, and that means being able to pop out a good game every once in a while. A good percent of so called 'better bowlers' are big babies, so it's no win, easy or tough.
Accept reality and focus on the things you can do. Participate in sport shot tournaments when they're offered. Get your buddies to go with you. Numbers get the attention of proprietors, not talk.