I can see what you mean, but for the most part, I think being hard on myself has done me good. I really would like to see what it's like to throw a bad shot and not be upset with it. This rabid perfectionism of mine doesn't allow me to tolerate mistakes. I make a bad shot, and yeah I get hacked off, but when I get up to the line next time, I usually say something to myself like, "Alright idiot, once is enough for this game, make the shot." BUT, sometimes, as some have rightly pointed out to me, I was trying too hard to make perfect shots instead of good ones. That's the key thing I need to keep in mind. That's my greatest flaw, overthinking. Irritation for me stems for a lot of things in my shot. I'll over focus on one thing, and drop another one. I'll keep my wrist cupped one shot, but hurry to the line. Next shot I'll let my wrist fall, and in trying to pull it up at the line, I'll stick because I'm concentrating too hard on my approach.
However, if I don't pressure myself, if I relax, I ALWAYS throw a soft ball with too low speed, too low revs, and ultimately a very weak shot. I need to start a routine where I have little "reminders" to help me keep everything in mind in my shot. I wear small rubber bands on my fingers, one is to remind me not to try to impress people, and the other is to keep my mouth shut. As for relaxing, I can't even go outside and shoot a basketball around without eventually being upset because I'm missing shots here and there. I've developed a pretty nasty temper because of certain negativities during my horrible teenage years, and can't seem to keep it from affecting unrelated things. Lol, I'm not looking for a personal counselor, but if anybody can hypnotize me into keeping calm after a bad shot, I'll be your biggest fan.
Lefty, I use the anger between shots as fuel. Usually the shot after I make a bad one is my best of the game. I just have to keep myself from falling into the trap of trying to make perfect shots. Trying to do that screws me up worse than relaxing. Staying smooth and focusing are the best two things I can tell myself. I'm all about improving my game, and I welcome and thank you all for the input you give me, negative and positive. I get defensive sometimes, but I don't believe I've ever received bad advice from any of you. I know it sounds like I disregard a lot of it as well, but lol, it eventually sinks in. It's like I'm trying to find the "perfect" thing in every word, if it doesn't describe my flaws perfectly, and fill the hole perfectly, I'm going to keep looking. I know I have the drive and the intensity to be a great bowler, I just need to quit being an idiot, pay more attention, and keep from getting over excited. I freakin LOVE the sport, and people can't understand it. They'll bowl a tournament one weekend, and then say they want to relax for a few days afterwards. Not me, I'm at the alley the next day working on everything I did wrong in the tournament, no matter how I finished. Unless I'm on crutches or in a cast, I'm going to practice. Lol, done for another longwinded post.
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