Zanatos1914 —
larry mc's post makes great sense — use another, more appropriate ball for practice. He's suggesting a ball that works for him. For me, that ball might be too much. Find a ball that will work for you. If you can, buy a used one in good condition; alter its shell if you need to.
SrKegler's post is also excellent advice — practice hitting your mark, your arm swing, timing, hand positions, etc/etc, and ignore the score.
For me, practice time is also an opportunity to experiment, and sometimes the results are very surprising.
Focus on consistency. Allow yourself some pause-time to feel differences, something that's initially difficult to do when competing. Train yourself to watch the ball's motion as it rolls towards the pins. And, as author/coach Susie Minshew says, it's very important to note where the ball exits the pins, which will tell you about its entry angle.
One thing not to do is expect perfectly consistent lane and oil conditions — they don't exist. But your point that very different lane conditions are difficult to deal with, especially when trying to develop new skills, is a valid one.
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