Hey 9~, I want to know which handicap tourneys you bowl in so I can avoid those. I understand your thinking, but I for one could never screw up on purpose. I always thought you were supposed to try your hardest, and let the pins fall where they may. There isn't enough money to be made in leagues to try and mess up on purpose.
As for losing to someone with handicap, I have shot 290 scratch(305 with handicap), and lost, and didn't get mad at that. I congratulated the guy on his game(till then his highest ever), and then continued on.
The next thing you will want is if someone throws a brooklyn strike to beat you they should have to give that up too. Handicap is part of the game and is there to keep lower average bowlers from getting discouraged and quitting the game. If you start putting people at a severe disadvantage, they will quit, and then bowling will continue it's downslide.
Bowling is just a game. Unless you are making a living at it, sometimes it's better to just let things go. It will be more fun and less maddening.
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Me stupid. Me believe anything. Please tell me what to do.