I also come form squeezing and gripping too tight. Well, it took me 10 months to get it better now. The solution was and is simple: relax and let go! Nothing else helps. For me, it was a mental thing. Even though the balöl fitted right, I lacked the confidence in the ball itself to perform right. So I tried subconsciously to steer it and released it way to late, almost lofting it on every shot.
My solution came with much training and concentration. First of all, I focussed on an upright body position and a free pendulum. Then, I tried to relax more. When the ball comes forward in my swing and feel it coing up to my ankle I subvocalize a "let go" - and I let the thumb go and have the weight shifted onto my fingers as it is supposed to be. Good thing about this trigger is that I can use it "mechanically" when I get tense and I sense that I squeeze it again.
When I am relaxed now, I even do not need this command anymore due to training and body memory. Today I can hook the ball as it is supposed to be and have true power in my ball. Big step forward since the beginning of 2005!
Maybe it helps some of you, too?
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