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pin-chaser

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« on: October 30, 2008, 04:03:06 AM »
For the last 7 weeks I have been averaging over 240 in leagues. I have had a 300/781 infact the lowest score I can remember is 689. I started the season bad and was averaging 190 after 3 weeks. Now I am at 225 at 11 weeks.

I am an old guy (48) and my son (21) is really a talented young bowler. I have resigned myself to accepting that I will never again be physically as talented (flexible and strong) as I once was. So I have been focusing on repeating shots, making adjustments and using technology to my advantage. And I am getting better at this things. This in leu to throwing it harder and over revving the ball.

So last night in league my son says to me (we bowl on the same team)... "Your timing sucks, but you have been scoring good and I was going to talk to you after league tonight"... this after 260 and 257 first 2 games. I was so distraught that was all I could think about the rest of the night. I was pretty upset.

Then to take things to the next level, my son and I had planned on bowling the city tournament in team and doubles partners. He said to me "Tommy (a hall of famer here in memphis) asked me to bowl doubles with him and if you want I can bowl a second squad with you".

So am I taking things out of context??? I mean, I feel like quitting the game again and have lost my inspiration to get better. Sure it would be great to bowl with my son in the city as we did at the nationals (we both cashed is team, doubles and singles) but do you think that this is my problem because he is my son (a father/son problem?)

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Re: Question???
« Reply #1 on: October 30, 2008, 12:13:09 PM »
Hey, they're pretty full of themselves at that age, what can you do?
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« Reply #2 on: October 30, 2008, 12:16:47 PM »
I'm with ren on this. He's 21 and doesn't know much. You're rolling exceptionally well and you should never take advice from family when your experience outweighs the source. Yoiur son is your son impetutious and green in life. Keep doing what you're doing, bowl a second shift with him and just enjoy the game.
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« Reply #3 on: October 30, 2008, 12:22:58 PM »
Not sure I understand the issue.  Your son told you your timing sucks.  Is that in reference to your physical bowling and getting to the line.....or the fact that you are now throwing the ball great and your timing sucks because now it's hard to say what he wanted to say??

Timing in release is, to me, a personal thing and goes with your style.  You could be off in your timing but still be very comfortable with how you throw it and still be successful because of that.  In that case, if I were you, I'd probably react to the comment in the same way I mentioned.  

Prime example was when Rick Minier (spelling??  Can't really remember his last name) won.  I don't think he had great form or anything.  Same with Rick Lawrence.  Both were not somebody I would want to use as role models on how to throw the ball.  But what they do is successful for them.

Now, if the timing was because he wanted to tell you earlier and now that you are bowling good it's harder to do.....I would go out and get someone else to bowl with and try to beat his butt....plain and simply put....and let it go at that.
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« Reply #4 on: October 30, 2008, 12:30:00 PM »
i'll take a different approach to this one.  i think maybe your son thinks he is becoming a better bowler and that maybe you're on the decline.(not judging by your numbers) so he has the "hall of famer" asking him to bowl, so he may think that he has a better chance at winning.  but he also said that he would bowl a squad with you for the tournament, so in that aspect he just didnt say he didnt want to bowl with you.  
     as far as his remarks on your timing, he should really elaborate on that a little bit more.
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« Reply #5 on: October 30, 2008, 04:37:39 PM »
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Well said and thanks. I think I was over emphasising the remarks. I know he wants whats best for me but somehow as I get older I seem to be getting more emotional. Those simple words put things in perspective for me.
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« Reply #6 on: October 31, 2008, 10:28:43 AM »
Just in reading it, it sounds like you took it to personal. Who hear would not want a HOF'er ask them to bowl doubles together. Look at it from his view. I would bet that he is looking at the chance to "impress" the hall of famer as an oppurtunity. But probably equally pleased to get to bowl with you.

Just out bowl the hall of famer when you pair with your son, that will show him

You are still his Dad.

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