What is your span?
Span will dictate pitches more than any one thing. My initial guess is way too much reverse (unless your span is quite long).
You're probably putting the "death grip" on the ball trying not to lose it, but according to you, it's still slipping.
As an example, my span is around 4 1/2" and over the years I have gone from 3/16" reverse on the thumb to 1/8" forward, and I now use waaaaay less grip pressure than I used to. The only way you'll really know is to start tweaking pitches a little at a time until you feel right. All of our hands are different.