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DArtagnon

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altercation at bowling alley
« on: November 27, 2005, 12:14:37 PM »
What would you guys suggest to be done in this situation. Yesterday, two bowlers got in an altercation during league play. Here is the background. A couple in our league split up after 15 years together. They have two kids between them but they never married. The breakup occurred over the summer and both now have a new boyfriend/girlfriend and have been bringing them to the bowling alley - which obviously irks the other. Last night, the guy and the girl's new boyfriend almost got into fist-i-cuffs. There was a lot of choice words spoken and they had to be physically separated; everyone in the league felt more than a little uncomfortable about the whole thing. The former couple's two kids witnessed the whole incident and I am sure they also felt awkward. In your opinion, what should be done now, if anything?
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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #1 on: November 27, 2005, 08:28:33 PM »
Being a divorced parent myself all I can say is that neither one of these guys apparently knows how to act in front of the kids. Also,almost getting into a physical altercation in front of the kids shows that all that they're doing is showing off in front of the kids as if to say "See I'm the better man because I'm stronger".
 That's NOT what kids need to learn. If either of these two can't take a little insulting--and after all they're only words-----it sounds like both have problems they need to address.
 I have no desire to get back together with my ex,but we get along because the both of us have a child to raise that we both love very much.To that end, we get along and do NOT fight or even raise our voices in front of her. If we do disagree it's on the phone and usually just a few words that need to be said because of a misunderstanding.  

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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #2 on: November 27, 2005, 08:29:44 PM »
Well, my opinion would end up tearing apart a team but this might be the only true solution. I would either have both people removed from the leauge or change them into another team. Kinda like trading team mates.

Have a Team captians meeting, ask anyone if they have an open position on their team or if anyone would like to swap teams to split up the problem makers.

Just some thoughts.
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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #3 on: November 27, 2005, 08:31:31 PM »
I think that the two adults that split up are acting younger than the kids are.  The two that split up should be mature about the whole thing and keep their personal lives out of each other's space.  Sounds like something you would see in a high school somewhere.  When a situation like that occurs, an altercation is bound to happen.  What we would do here, is have a meeting to vote on having the new boyfriend/girlfriend stay away from the center until league is over so nothing like that happens again.  Seems to me like they did that on purpose.  In a situation like this, keep the sex at home and be mature about the whole thing.  Don't make it miserable for everyone else who are up there trying to have fun.
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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #4 on: November 27, 2005, 08:44:42 PM »
Triggerman,
 We both said pretty much the same thing in different ways. I didn't mean to step on your toes. It's just that when I replied to the post I didn't see any other replies, so I typed in my response.
 Glad to see that another person out there realizes that it's the kids that are important.
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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #5 on: November 27, 2005, 09:01:42 PM »
Let's see...

Together for 15 years.
Parented 2 children out of wedlock.
Bringing new boy/girlfriend to the bowling alley for spite.
Fighting in the bowling center in front of large crowds and children.

Sounds like something Maury Povich would be interested in.

Dave is (justifiably) going to have a field day with this.  

White trash, anyone?

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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #6 on: November 27, 2005, 09:17:40 PM »
The trick is if you get married, stay married or don't get married. How freakin hard is to understand that? If it was your ex wife or husbands fault or they left you or whatever then you should have known. Divorced people are fools.
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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #7 on: November 27, 2005, 11:05:23 PM »
Brian it must be nice to see the worl through rose colored glasses.  I hate to break it to you, but all divorced people are not fools.  There are times when keeping a marriage together just because you got married is the foolish thing to do.  

In regards to the original post, if they cannot behave like adults during league, both should be asked to leave the league.  It is not right for this to hgappen in front of the kids nor should the rest of the league be subjected to their fights.
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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #8 on: November 28, 2005, 05:47:34 AM »
I'm a divorced and remarried parent. My current wife and I bowl, x-wife does not. However, if she was in a league we were in, I'd think we were old enough to keep our problems in another place. Been divorced over 13 years and only said 3 bad things against her, 2 in front of the kids. Reason...she bought a M/C and it was a big one, she'd never had one before, I thought it was dumb to buy that large a M/C to start with. After her crash, she agreed.

Anyway, back to leagues, there is a rule, ...actions not in the best interest of the league....use it ! Tell them both, not in here, if they do it again, call a meeting, warn them, then one more act and the league can kick out one or both, up to the league.

Warn them, then use the rules that we have.
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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #9 on: November 28, 2005, 07:15:16 AM »
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The trick is if you get married, stay married or don't get married. How freakin hard is to understand that? If it was your ex wife or husbands fault or they left you or whatever then you should have known. Divorced people are fools.


This entire paragraph is asinine...

If one person lives up to their end of the bargain and the other doesn't, what do you do?  Trust is a fragile thing....

 
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Let's see...

Together for 15 years.
Parented 2 children out of wedlock.
Bringing new boy/girlfriend to the bowling alley for spite.
Fighting in the bowling center in front of large crowds and children.

Sounds like something Maury Povich would be interested in.

Dave is (justifiably) going to have a field day with this.

White trash, anyone?

Cheers.



Pinnut, I think you got it right.  White trash....being immature.  They should have had kids to begin with.

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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #10 on: November 28, 2005, 10:24:25 AM »
I agree with pin-- Sounds to me like they are trailer park fabulous...LOL
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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #11 on: November 28, 2005, 03:05:42 PM »
The league should have mobbed them and proceeded to beat both their arses before tossing them out in the parking lot bruised and bloody.
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Re: altercation at bowling alley
« Reply #12 on: November 28, 2005, 03:20:23 PM »
Kind of agree with 9~, just kidding. There is no easy way to get involved with two divorced people. Just warn them about fighting as if they were two non involved people. It's gonna suck anyway you slice it.
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