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renaissanceman517kak

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How territorial are you at the bowling alley?
« on: February 22, 2010, 03:42:20 AM »
So yesterday afternoon I go to get some practice in. I'm on lane 9-10, and a couple who comes in not longer after me are on lane 12 (lane 11 is out of service)...a large group comes in, with pre-teens, teenagers, some parents, and even grandparents (although the parents and grandparents seemed to be watching rather than bowling)and they were assigned to lanes 13-18...at first, I thought that mass chaos would ensue, but they were pretty quiet and self contained for such a large group...

So after bowling for a bit, I decide to grab a soda and take a little break. The couple on lane 12 had gotten some food, and they were sitting down to eat as I was coming back to my lanes. Each lane pair has two tables behind it; as a was sitting down at one of the tables behind my pair, one of the parents from the large group came over to ask the couple if they could make use of the second table behind the couple's lane pair, since the couple wasn't using it. The reponse was a surpringly angry no...the woman asking seemed pretty startled by the response, and what ensued was a drawn out debate where the couple got increasingly loud and condescending, while the parent (and others who joined her) were pretty calm and quiet throughout, but seem thoroughly perplexed at why this was even a problem.

Someone at the front desk soon took notice of the encounter and came over to see what the deal was. The couple by this point is over the top p1ssed off at the idea that someone would want to use that second table, while the parents in the group are telling the manager, look we don't want any trouble, we were just trying to understand why we couldn't use this table that they weren't using, since there's so many of us. So the manager explained that the table in question was assigned to the couple's lane, and if they didn't want to share it they didn't have to. So the parents shrugged their shoulders and let it be. One of the parents even tried to apologize to the couple, who then promptly demanded to be put on another lane. Finally as the couple was moving their stuff, one of the older ladies who was watching came over one final time as apologized. By this point the guy had calmed down somewhat, and he thanked the lady for her efforts, but the woman, still angry, just stormed off. Ironically enough, by the time this was all over with, the only lane left for the couple to be relocated to was a single lane next to another group, so they still only got use of one table while the other group had the other table.

So, my question is this? How would you have handled it if you were that couple? As for me, I rarely sit for very long when I'm practing or hanging out with the guys. Even if I were on a date, all I would care about is having one table and two chair available; if someone else wanted to grab a couple chairs or slide a table over a little, what's the harm? Maybe some of you guys have a different view...

 

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Re: How territorial are you at the bowling alley?
« Reply #16 on: February 23, 2010, 10:00:37 AM »
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I have a complete set up I take with me, it''s made up of conduit framework that I assemble all around the lanes I''m assinged, then I drape canvas panels over the frame to fully enclose my area and keep everyone else out.  Nobody bothers me then.

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Re: How territorial are you at the bowling alley?
« Reply #17 on: February 23, 2010, 10:02:52 AM »
i am territorial to a point ,but thats rediculous.Lane courtesy gets me. But if i am bowling on a pair especially in the brunswick alleys,i always use the front table me and my stuff,who cares if someone eats at the back table.
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Re: How territorial are you at the bowling alley?
« Reply #18 on: February 23, 2010, 10:34:06 AM »
Honestly, I would probably not only agreed to let them use the extra table, but invited them to use the table I was at as soon as I had finished eating.

 Have it known that, I am not particularly fond of strange people, but I do have manners and cordiality. I also love bowling and want everyone that comes in to bowl to have an enjoyable experience, that way they may come back and eventually turn into a league bowler.

 I'm there to bowl, not eat and socialize. If I do get a drink or food while practicing, it is unusual. I'll usually bowl at a bowling alley and eat at a restaurant, unless I'm running late for league and have no choice.
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Re: How territorial are you at the bowling alley?
« Reply #19 on: February 23, 2010, 11:09:03 AM »
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The reponse was a surpringly angry no...the woman asking seemed pretty startled by the response, and what ensued was a drawn out debate


Not trying to completely side with the couple, but their first response was no. Even though rude (your terms "angry no"). So the woman startled decided to get into a debate. So they tell her no, and she decides to debate with them.

Obviously she didn't understand the word "No".

Her next step (instead of trying to persuade them) would be to go to the front desk. She would of received the answer: "Its up to the people who are renting the lane." Well the answer was "No".  End of Story.

You can be nice all you want. You are not going to change their minds. That couple was probably thinking what part of NO don't you understand.


Personally I would have given them the table and that seems like what most people would do.  


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Your answer is????



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Re: How territorial are you at the bowling alley?
« Reply #20 on: February 23, 2010, 11:44:06 AM »
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The reponse was a surpringly angry no...the woman asking seemed pretty startled by the response, and what ensued was a drawn out debate


Not trying to completely side with the couple, but their first response was no. Even though rude (your terms "angry no"). So the woman startled decided to get into a debate. So they tell her no, and she decides to debate with them.

Obviously she didn't understand the word "No".

Her next step (instead of trying to persuade them) would be to go to the front desk. She would of received the answer: "Its up to the people who are renting the lane." Well the answer was "No".  End of Story.

You can be nice all you want. You are not going to change their minds. That couple was probably thinking what part of NO don't you understand.


Personally I would have given them the table and that seems like what most people would do.  


Here is a Situation: You are standing in line at a Grocery Store. Your cart is filled to the top. There is only one register open. You have in line for some time. Someone gets in line behind you with 1 item. They ask you "Would you mind letting me go ahead of you?".

Your answer is????






I would let that person pass, because that is how I am.

Both sides were at fault, them for saying now and not really needing it, and the others for trying to push the issue when the answer was given.......

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Re: How territorial are you at the bowling alley?
« Reply #21 on: February 23, 2010, 01:07:06 PM »
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Here is a Situation: You are standing in line at a Grocery Store. Your cart is filled to the top. There is only one register open. You have in line for some time. Someone gets in line behind you with 1 item. They ask you "Would you mind letting me go ahead of you?".

Your answer is????






"Go ahead"

I've let people in front of me before, and I've had people let me cut in front of them (I don't think I've ever asked, they offer when they see I only have one or two things)
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Re: How territorial are you at the bowling alley?
« Reply #22 on: February 23, 2010, 01:11:48 PM »
I call it concentration practice.

But, for me as long as no one touches my stogie, no one gets hurt

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Re: How territorial are you at the bowling alley?
« Reply #23 on: February 23, 2010, 01:22:27 PM »
This is a case of ignorant human beings. When I practice I set my bags under the houseball/ bar table I don't use the big table or the one in between the lanes. They can have it all as long as they don't bring food or drinks in the bowlers area


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Re: How territorial are you at the bowling alley?
« Reply #24 on: February 24, 2010, 01:15:30 AM »
mine mine mine mine mine


People are such jerks these days.