I don't really know the answer to your question. I stopped bowling league about 2 years ago and don't miss it what so ever. I do enjoy my time bowling with friends as a recreational sport tho & try to make it 2 times a week, although the 40 mile round trip does take a toll on me, especially @ night. I actually look forward to being and bowling with friends on a mostly non competitive level. Just having fun and juking around, but also trying to do one's best as I expect my friend to do also. No more pressure to be better, or doing your utmost for the team. I do bowl as a sub to get my 21 games in for average to bowl tournaments, but usually being a sub puts me off as well. Good luck in your decision. I love to bowl, been doing it for decades, but league leaves me upset with the jabbering, pressures, sandbagging, smoking, drunkenness (getting high & silly on alcohol) and just general BS malarkey.
Old & set in my ways I suppose.