How much flare are you getting? This will answer your question of whether or not it was drilled too strong. IMO putting the pin within 5" of your PAP is too strong. I have one drilled with the pin 5-3/4" from my axis with a weight hole and I get a 3/8" separation between flare lines. Basically you need too see if the center of the bowtie is stable or if you end up rolling over a previous flare. I need to know a little bit more before I can suggest how to proceed. Weight holes a good for generating more flare on asymmetrical balls, but not really for decreasing. Drilling fingers or thumbhole deeper may be an option depending on what you find.
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